Dr. Richard Cirulli delves further into his growing body of work regarding societal evolution, known as the “Boomerang Series,” in his most recent article: “The 51st Year Summer of Love – The Baby-Boomers Current Dating Scene By Dr. Richard Cirulli, Ph.D., https://www.yonkerstribune.com/?p=40043.
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The 51st Year Summer of Love – The Baby-Boomers Current Dating Scene By Dr. Richard Cirulli, Ph.D.
“The Summer of Love…I felt I had fallen into some Utopia whose millennium had arrived. I was heedless of the future, and my past as well” — Marc Barasch, a teenager from Los Angeles upon arriving in San Francisco in 1967.
The mass media has dubbed the warm months of 1967, as the “Summer of Love”, paying particular attention to the Haight-Asbury district of San Francisco. San Francisco was now the epicenter for the new “free love” movement where the Hippies were breaking sexual taboos, and deconstructing America’s sexual mores of monogamous relationships. It was also the city made famous by Tony Bennett’s “I Left My Heart in San Francisco”. What popular culture has left us with the strong impression that San Francisco is the city of “love”, free of fidelity. The author has been told people never come back the same.
The above preamble leads to the crux of the article, that being the dating scene for Baby-Boomers today. It is a bit ironic, humorous, and to a degree dismal, as the largest generational cohorts now find themselves dating, and looking for that “special” partner; for many, the third time around. The story just never gets old, and the latest statistics may indicate that not all people grow in wisdom with age. Perhaps some are still experiencing some lingering hallucinations from the “Summer of Love” as they chant their new mantras: 60 is the new 40(?), and grey is the new blond(?), and my expanding gut is the new six-pack(?). Yes, denial takes many forms, even in the age of maturity and wisdom. For those boomers currently engaged in the dating scene, some are desperately trying to hold on to their youth, as they lose their grip on reality. Initial dates are more of an inquisition that would make Torquemada turn green with envy. Vanity and denial is quickly cast aside, as questions come up about the list of medications one is taking, how many body parts are in reality replacements, and knowing each has Googled one another to the point of obsession, or has hired a private investigator as an extra measure so as not to be lied to again. Oh yes, isn’t romance so innocent and so much fun? And, let’s not forget about infidelity and STD’s.
Sadly, many Baby Boomers have not matured much in respect to their mating rituals, nor their moral integrity over the past 51 years. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention(CDC), the following statistics, gathered between the years 2010 and 2014 among adults 65 and over reveal the following findings:
• Chlamydia infections increased by 52 percent.
• Syphilis infections rose by about 65 percent.
• Gonorrhea cases increased by more than 90 percent.
• 27 percent of new AIDS diagnoses in the US in 2013 were among peoples age 50 or older.
These numbers are not surprising, and easily supported by the following statistics. An overwhelming majority of Americans, 75 percent, say adultery is always wrong. And most Americans do not engage in its practice. But according to Nicholas Wolfinger, a University of Utah Sociologists asserts a generational gap has emerged since 2000 when it comes to infidelity.
According to Wolfinger, older Americans cheat more than in the past, and younger Americans cheat less. In a study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior in 2015, it is now recognized that people presently in their 50s and 60s, have as a generation , had “more sex partners in their lifetime” than any generation before or since.
“Secrets and lies kill relationships no matter how careful one believe they can manipulate the truth, one will get caught. What is done in the shadows of infidelity and deception always comes to light” — Author unknown
For Baby Boomers the chances of contracting an STD, or finding themselves involved with an adulterous partner is increased as the number of people over 50 consider on-line dating. The number of over 50 on-line Baby Boomers has doubled since 2013. Furthermore, a third of the over 50 surveyed claim they are more carefree, 27 percent claim they are more sexually liberated, and have the lowest rate of condom use.
In closing on a rather somber and matter of fact final note, one’s control of practicing safe sex, even in maturity, is limited to your partner’s fidelity and honesty. Many of us have experienced the betrayal of infidelity, sometimes forgetful of the fact, and the possibility there may be a ticking time bomb left within you in the form of an STD, after your former lover is long gone. While infidelity is a crime of the heart, passing on an STD is criminal.
“We cannot control the wind, but we can direct the sail” — Author unknown
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Dr. Richard Cirulli is a retired Professor of Business, consultant, writer, columnist, Playwright, author, Innocent Bystander, and critic at large. He looks forward to your comments as email@example.com